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Yielded Moms is a group designed to help us identify our roles and goals as parents. We will meet together monthly to explore God’s word, gain parenting wisdom and share and exchange personal trials and triumphs. We will pray for each other and we will glean from those who are wise and have already done the work of parenting according to God’s plan. Yielding isn’t a hesitation, but rather a deliberate attempt to slow and take survey of what’s around before proceeding. My hope that is what we will do here. By surveying parenting around us, we will be equipped to make decisions to merge onto the busy parenting highway or put on the brakes at a parenting trial and spend some time working there until we get a green light.

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NEW POST : Free Museum Days in Chicago

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ALSO on this blog you will find message excerpts from each Yielded Moms meeting as well as the information used during the discussion time. I have also included some links to a few prayer resources. You will find near the end of the blog a list of Parenting Resources that I have used in my research.

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Yielded Moms meetings for Summer 2009

Meetings for 2009!


June: June 1st Ice Cream Social - Cold Stone Creamery, Deer Park 7:30pm

July: Coffee Talk??? TBA

Aug: TBA



Email me for more details and to receive an evite at

vtofilon@yahoo.com,
type 'Yielded Moms' in the subject line.

This group is open for new guests and please feel free to invite friends to join us too!

Free Admission Dates for Chicago Fun with Kids

Museum Free Days

Welcoming to all, many of Chicago’s more than 50 cultural institutions, historic sites and museums have designated ‘free days’ throughout the year. To encourage all to discover their unique and special attractions, on varying days of the week, museums throughout the city waive their general admittance fee. Note: Though they may not charge a general admittance fee, some museums may charge a fee to view special exhibits. *Dates in 2009 that Chicago Museums offer “Free Days” include:

The Adler Planetarium
Free Days:
March: 3, 10, 17 April: 21, 28May: 5, 12, 19, 26June: 7-12July: NoneAugust: NoneWinter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Museum of Science and Industry
Free Days:
March: None
April: None May: None June: 1 - 5, 19July: NoneAugust: NoneWinter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Shedd Aquarium
Free Days:
March: None April: None May: None June: 14 - 19 July: None August: None Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Museum of Contemporary Art
Free Days:
March: 3, 10, 17, 24, 31 April: 7, 14, 21, 28 May: 5, 12, 19, 26 June: 2, 9, 16, 23, 30 July: 7, 14, 21, 28 August: 4, 11, 18, 25
Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Chicago History Museum
Free Days:
March: 2, 9, 16, 23, 30April: 6, 13, 20, 27May: 4, 11, 18, 25June: 1, 8, 15, 22, 29July: 6, 13, 20, 27August: 3, 10, 17, 24, 31Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Loyola University Museum of Art
Free Days:
March: 3, 10, 17, 24, 31 April: 7, 14, 21, 28May: 5, 12, 19, 26June: 2, 9, 16, 23, 30July: 7, 14, 21, 28August: 4, 11, 18, 25Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Clarke House Museum
Free Days:
March: 4, 11, 18, 25 April: 1, 8, 15, 22, 29 May: 6, 13, 20, 27 June: 3, 10, 17, 24 July: 1, 8, 15, 22, 29 August: 5, 12, 19, 26 Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Spertus Museum
Free Days:
March to August:
Wednesdays, 10 am - 12 noon Thursdays, 2 - 6 pm
Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
The Art Institute of Chicago
Free Days:
March: Every Thursday, 5 - 8 pmApril: Every Thursday, 5 - 8 pmMay: Every Thursday, 5 - 8 pm
June: Every Thursday, 5 - 8 pm
July: Every Thursday, 5 - 8 pm
August: Every Thursday 5 - 8 pm
Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Field Museum
Free Days:
March: 9April: 13 May: 11 June: 8July: 13August: 10Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Chicago Children’s Museum on Navy Pier
Free Days:
March: 2, Thursdays, 5 - 8 pmApril: 6, Thursdays, 5 - 8 pm
May: 3, Thursdays, 5 - 8 pm June: 7, Thursdays, 5 - 8 pm July: 5, Thursdays, 5 - 8 pm
August: 2, Thursdays, 5 - 8 pm Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Peggy Notebaert Nature Museum
Free Days:
March: 5, 12, 19, 26April: 2, 9, 16, 23, 30 May: 7, 14, 21, 28,June: 4, 11, 18, 25 July: 2, 9, 16, 23, 30 August: 6, 13, 20, 27
Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
DuSable Museum of African American History
Free Days:
March: 1, 8, 15, 22, 29April: 5, 12, 19, 26
May: 3, 10, 17, 24, 31
June: 7, 14, 21, 28,
July: 5, 12, 19, 26
August: 2, 9, 16, 23, 33Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Charnley-Persky House Museum
Free Days:
March: 4, 11, 18, 25 April: 1, 8, 15, 22, 29 May: 6, 13, 20, 27 June: 3, 10, 17, 24 July: 1, 8, 15, 22, 29 August: 5, 12, 19, 26 Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Glessner House Museum
Free Days:
March: 4, 11, 18, 25April: 1, 8, 15, 22, 29May: 6, 13, 20, 27
June: 3, 10, 17, 24
July: 1, 8, 15, 22, 29August: 5, 12, 19, 26
Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
Swedish American Museum
Free Days:
March: 10
April: 14
May: 12June: 9
July: 14
August: 11
Winter/Fall: Dates vary, visit website for more information.
*Dates of “Free Days” subject to changes based upon individual museum re-scheduling.

Easter Traditions!

Each year when Christmas and Easter approach, I begin to get anxious about how I will emphasize the truest meaning of these celebrations with my children. I haven’t yet figured out how to buck the system and leave out Santa and the Easter Bunny. Because of this, I wonder if my children will be left with an experience with Jesus during these holidays or just another tummy-ache from a hollow chocolate bunny.

I am sure many of you have similar feelings as you combat the culture we live in and create Christ-Centered lives, memories, and pathways for yourselves and your children. This year, as you approach the Easter season, I’d like to leave you with a few ideas to help you focus on the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus.

As always, these are just a few ideas for you to consider. I believe that doing all of them when you have never taken part in any of them, would be a disaster! As you look through the list, choose one or two to begin with this year and add others in the years to come. Also realize that as you are reading this just a few days before Palm Sunday, some may be impossible to carry out this year, don’t be frustrated but think as though you are getting a jump on next year. Mark up your 2010 calendar now, in preparation for the ideas you wish to incorporate next year and then when the season of Lent begins in 2010 you will have a jump start, rather than a late start!

Creating Family Traditions by Gloria Gather and Shirley Dobson
This book is a yearlong collection of memories and traditions. The Easter section is one of my favorites in the book. There are suggestions for a Palm Sunday Brunch, Maundy Thursday Foot-Washing, Good Friday Family Communion, and a Family Seder Meal. Our couple’s small group gathers each year with little ones in tow, to participate in a Seder Meal. When Jesus shared the bread and wine with His disciples at the Last Supper, He did so in the context of a Seder meal. I prepare a large tray with a sampling of the traditional Seder meal items. We read from a special dialogue adapted for Christians, share in the Seder meal together and then enjoy dinner as a group. You can find this a short version of this dialogue in this book (we use another text written by Arleen Hynes, see below, the next resource). Also in this book you will find suggestions for Easter Saturday, Resurrection Eggs, A Sunday Sunrise Service, and a Recipe for Resurrection Buns (which I make every year).

The Passover Meal: A Ritual for Christian Home by Arleen Hynes
http://www.ewtn.com/library/FAMILY/PASSMEAL.TXT. You will find in this text a more detailed description and preparation of the Passover Meal as well as a dialogue adapted for Christians. This is a wonderful text and is very family friendly. When I first had the idea to share this meal with my small group, I wasn’t sure how it would all turn out with several young children among us. However, this year will be our 3rd year to host the meal and the children enjoy the meal as much as the adults.

Treasuring God in Our Traditions by Noel Piper
In this book you will find much about the Christmas Holiday. However towards the end of the book there is a chapter on Easter. I just know you will be glad you read the words of this wonderful woman and listened to her take on the Easter Holiday. Great emphasis is place on preparing your heart and home through Lent. There is also a great exercise via candle light, similar to the candle lighting you may do at Christmas, called Lenten Lights. Use these two links to get you to a free PDF of the book and a small booklet with detail on Lenten Lights.
http://www.desiringgod.org/Store/Books/ByTopic/104/377_Treasuring_God_in_Our_Traditions (click on the link for Chapters 9-10 and Appendix)
http://www.desiringgod.org/Store/Booklets/432_Lenten_Lights/ (Click on the link for Read Online)

With Easter now just a short time away, won’t you take some time to prepare your heart for this wonderful celebration. As you do this, I know your heart will swell with renewed passion for your Savior and for your family. Look through this list for some ideas that penetrate your heart and see if there would be a way to adopt them into your Easter Celebration this year. Blessings! Love, Vanessa

Raising Spiritual Champions

Spiritual Champions


So, what are we all doing here tonight?  why did you give up a night with your husband on the couch watching the latest episode of Chuck or 24?  Maybe you gave up a night of soaking in a tub or a night to tie up loose ends around the house, like laundry or paying the bills.  I believe I know why you are here, and it is because you believe that what you do as a mom is important in the life of your child. You're here because you know the odds are against the American family and you'd like to beat those odds.  You're here because of all those things you could be doing tonight, you know that there is a good possibility something at this gathering has the potential of positively affecting you and your family.  you're here to put your family first.  You're here because you know that church programs and private Christian schools, while wonderful places for growth and learning,  won't be enough on their own to impact your children in their personal relationship with Christ.  SO?  Way to go Moms and those Dads at home babysitting.  It is truly wonderful that you have taken initiative to attend this mom's group.  Certainly this isn't the only mom's group out there, or the best for that matter.  And wether you choose to come back or try something else, I encourage you to continue to seek out biblical wisdom and teaching in your role as a parent  It is the responsibility that has come with your beautiful blessing!


Jesus says, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.  This is the 1st and greatest commandment.  A second is like it, Love you neighbor as yourself."  Matt 22:37-39

I would suggest to you that this is our Biblical definition of a Spiritual Champion.    Tonight we are talking about how to raise Spiritual Champions.  In his book Revolutionary Parenting, George Barna defines a Spiritual Champion this way, "Individuals who have embraced Jesus Christ as their Savior and Lord; accept the Bible as truth and the guide for their life; and seek to live in obedience to its principles and in search of ways to continually deepen their relationship with God." Whether you use the words of Jesus or George Barna to define a Spiritual Champion, I think you'd agree, we parents face quite a challenge to raise people to this ideal.


Do you remember the passage in Deut. 6?  I believe this is what raising a Spiritual Champion looks like, "You (mom and dad) must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength.  And you must commit yourselves to these commands I am giving to you today. Repeat them again and again to your children.  Talk about them when you are at home and when you are away on a journey, when you are lying down and when you are getting up again.  Tie them to your hands as a reminder and wear them on your forehead.  Write them on your door posts of your house and on your gates."


Over the holiday break I was able to pick up and read a couple of parenting books.  Most of tonight's material is from one of those books.  Revolutionary Parenting, by George Barna is the primary source tonight.  

So lets dive in:  So then, how do we go about raising Spiritual Champions?

 As parents we are called to have a heart of thanksgiving.  Often we thank God for our healthy and happy and smart and athletic and beautiful kids, but we need to remember to thank God for their existence.  Their presence alone is a real blessing to us parents.  Genesis 28:3 tells us that our children are a blessing to parents and eventually to the world.  Recognize that YOU are blessed.  Our children are a reason to praise God.  Children bring parents together though procreation, parenting teamwork and operating in life with unity of purpose and process.  Malachi 2:15 says, "Didn't God make you one with your wife?  And what does he want? Godly children from your union."  Generally we think of the children as the sweet little people that take so much time and energy away from the marriage.  But this passage from Malachi suggests children should bring parents together.


We have a specific job description as parents.  Our job includes, having hope, administering discipline, teaching obedience, protecting life, preparing kids for life, creating a positive family environment, and shaping spirituality.


Let's talk about Having Hope. Luke 9:37-43 retells the story of a man who brings his demon possessed son to Jesus for healing.  Although we don't know all that was spoken by the crowd or friends of the family, it was clear that only the father had kept hope alive, and believe his son would be healed.  Jesus rewards this man for his faith.  We are to never give up hope for the well being of our children.  You have been called to Faith because you are a parent.  


Fortunately or Unfortunately laying down the ground rules is part of our job as parents.  It is how God has fashioned our lives, with discipline.  Deut. 8:5 says, "So you should realize that just as a parent disciplines a child, so the Lord your God disciplines you to help you.  This discipline will help our children in life.  


Along with discipline comes obedience.  Deut 28:1-4 says that obedience will lead to blessing.  "If you obey the Lord your God by keeping all the commands I am giving you today, the Lord your God will exalt you above all the nations of the world  You will experience all these blessings if you obey the Lord your God.  You will be blessed in your towns and in the country.  You will be blessed with many children and productive fields.  you will be blessed with fertile herds and flocks."  Who would not want their child to be blessed in this way?  Think about this as you teach obedience to your little ones!


Another job is to Protect Life.  Think about the example of Moses' mother.  In Ex. 2:1-10 the story is told of how she protected  her son from death.  We are to protect our children physically, spiritually, morally, emotionally, and intellectually.   Giving that safety is a blessing to them.  In Eph.  6:4, fathers are reminded not to exasperate their children.  This verse is simply a command towards parents to protect their children emotionally.


Our job requires that we prepare our kids for life.  Part of this prep is with discipline and obedience.  From those two tools alone our children will gain wisdom (Prov 1:8, Prov 13:1), grace (Prov. 1:8), the will and capacity to resist sin, proof of our love (prov 3:12), legitimacy of being our children (Prov 3:12, Heb 12: 7-8), and respect for others.  Preparation for life will include giving advice, teaching discernment, instilling respect, and helping them choose friends.


The job list continues, with Creating a positive family environment.  Parenting is a partnership, you need to parent WITH your husband.  I realize that we have talked about this at another YM meeting, but I want to reinforce the idea here.  We all know the affects a broken parental relationship has on a child.  Going beyond this though is also a positive relationship within a  community.  You will have to pay attention to and create a positive environment for you child to grow in.  If you attended the services in January at Willow entitled Families at their best, you will remember Bill's plan B.  Plan B is to use the offerings at the church for children/youth and else where, such as school, to enhance that which you are teaching at home.  Another point to creating a positive family environment will be to develop individual relationships with your children.  To know that they are uniquely part of a family and individually loved by you is a tremendous thing.  You also need to provide a home that is a safe haven, meet their basic needs for food, shelter, healthcare, clothing, spiritual experiences, community and physical activity.  Introduce your children to the value of hard work.  Eph 6:1-3 says, "Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do.  Honor your father and mother.  This is the first of the Ten Commandments that ends with a promise: If you honor your father and mother, you will live a long life, full of blessing."  Finally, provide your children with a blessing.  The scripture isn't clear whether this is a monetary thing or something else, but the idea here is that blessing a child is a gift to them and benefit them in life.


Finally we are called to shape spirituality.  we need to facilitate the understanding of spiritual things.  You can do this by reading the bible, repeating God's commands consistently, and by relating Biblical truth to everyday life (which leads to a healthy faith and praise and worship to God).  When we shape their spirituality we teach them that the Christian Faith is not about how they are benefited by it, but how it glorifies God.  We also teach them the development of Character and advance their relationship with God.  


Spiritual Champions have a biblical world view.  They believe in moral absolutes.  They know they are created by God to serve.  They believe in the reality of spiritual warfare, they live lives that reflect God's Character.  They donate unusual amounts of time and money to spiritual causes.  They screen the media.  They change the world.


We will continue to talk about how to Raise Spiritual Champions next month.  We will discuss some objectives, some obstacles and some guidelines as we raise our children with a Spiritual Champion goal in mind.





Spiritual Champions Discussion Questions

Spiritual Champions



Spiritual Champions



1.  Matt 22:37-39 says, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment.  A second is like it love your neighbor as yourself."   Do you believe that this passage describes a Spiritual Champion?  Is this the goal you have for your children?  Is this the goal you have for yourself?  




2.  Sometimes as we process how we desire to raise our children, we realize that we have faults of our own.  What part of your relationship with God needs to be focused on to help you grow as a Spiritual Champion yourself?




3.  George Barna suggests that in order to raise Spiritual Champions, we must recognize that we are blessed.  Recall your own story of starting a family.  Say a special prayer of thanksgiving to God for your children.  (Gen 28:3)




4.  Think about the parenting you do.  Could you involve your husband more in the parental process?  Do you need to team up together and evaluate or establish your roles and goals as parents?   Praise God for the unified team you have the opportunity to be as parents of your children.  Ask God to help you work together.




5.  Think about these jobs we hold as parents.  What ones to you do well currently, and what ones would you like to improve upon?  Use the scripture references to guide you as you study these jobs given to us as parents.


* Never Give Up Hope - Luke 9:37-43


* Lay Down the Ground Rules, Discipline - Deut. 8:5


* Teach Obedience - Deut. 28:1-4


* Protect Life - Ex 2:1-10


* Prepare Kids for Life - Prov. 19:18, Deut. 8:5, Prov. 1:8, Prov. 13:1, Prov. 3:12, Heb. 12:7-8


* Create A Positive Family Environment - Prov. 3:21, 23:19-21; 24:21-22; Matt. 15:4, Eph. 6:3, Deut. 12:18-21, 1 Kings 9:4, Prov 20:7, 1 Kings 15:3, 15:26, 22:46, 22:52, 2 Kings 3:1-3, Judges 14:16, Ruth 3:5, Lev. 18-20, Judges 14:19, 

Gen. 27, 48, 49 Hebrews 12:17, Ruth 2:2, Eph. 6:1-3


*Shape Spirituality - Deut 6:4-8, 31:11-13, 4:10, Psalm 34:11, Prov. 24:21, Psalm 145:4, Matt 21:14-16, Deut. 6:2, Matt 18:6, Acts 2:38-39




 

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